The world becomes yours when you are able to leave a positive and lasting impression on the people you meet on your way. The good news is that you can learn the ability to “charm” others. This characteristic is known as charisma. Many people experience problems when making contacts because they feel they do not have the confidence to meet new people. Well, what if you had a tool – the charisma – that would make everyone notice you when you enter a room?
The seven keys of the charism.
1. Stay alert.
First thing’s first. When you talk to someone you must remain alert, that is, fully present. If it’s a one-on-one conversation, you should make the other person feel like the only individual in the room.
If you are in a group, make the speaker feel important and if you are the one who has the word, pay attention to all the people when you speak. Look at each assistant. This totally changes the impact you have when speaking since you leave a lasting impression on people.
2. Be attractive.
Charismatic people tend to be less stressed and more successful and attractive. When I say that they are attractive, I do not mean in the physical aspect, but that they look and act like normal people, but they are able to attract the attention of others.
Many leaders are qualified as charismatic because they have a firm stance in what they believe, love to learn and like to influence and inspire others. They are very attractive.
3. Remember and repeat.
A great and subtle way to praise someone you just met is to remember their name and use it in the conversation. Your interlocutor will respect you for remembering his name because you will make him feel special.
A good trick is to introduce yourself first and wait for the other person to do the same. Once you tell your identity, send an order to your subconscious thinking “Remember your name” and so you will have it fresh in your memory because you will force your mind to pay attention to the conversation. When you know the name of a person you just met, repeat it several times in the conversation and as many times in your head.
4. Control your body language.
Along with charisma, another great weapon is body language. It is proven that the way you move can increase your self-confidence. Body language is a universal language. People unconsciously read your movements and facial expressions when you approach them, so if you have a good posture and you show yourself happy and positive, you will make it clear that you have charisma. Trust is a fundamental part of the charism. People will admire you for the security you demonstrate.
5. A look that says everything.
People can measure your level of security according to your ability to hold their gaze. It is not about looking at other people without blinking, but observing them with confidence. If this causes you fear, you can start by looking at the point that is in the middle of the eyes, right where the nose is born. It seems that you are looking into their eyes and you will diminish your nerves.
6. Do not complain.
A good way to show charisma is to stay away from any negative conversation. Even when people do not have the most positive attitude, try to enlighten them a bit with a good attitude. So, when they think of you, they will remember you as a positive experience.
7. Be kind.
Praise others genuinely. This requires practice since most people do not pay attention to details and miss the opportunity to find positive characteristics in others. That’s why, when you appreciate some characteristic of someone else, you stand out. Women are better at this, but imagine receiving an unexpected praise from a man. Surely you would remember it. And do not forget to be a little more expressive when you speak, with your body language and facial expressions. Share stories, as they are more easily remembered and stand out from the boring day-to-day conversations.