The world becomes yours when you leave a positive and lasting impression on the people you meet on your path. The good news is that you can learn the ability to “charm” others. This skill is known as charisma. Many people find it difficult to make contacts because they do not feel confident to meet new people. What if you had a tool – charisma – that made everyone notice you as you walk into a room?
THE SEVEN KEYS TO CHARISMA
- Stay alert.
First things first. When you talk to someone you must be completely present.
In a one-on-one conversation, you must make the other person feel like the only individual in the room. In a group, make the speaker feel important, and if you are the one who has the floor, pay attention to everyone when you speak. Look at each attendee. This totally changes the impact you have when you speak because you leave a lasting impression on people.
- Be attractive.
Charismatic people tend to be less stressed and more successful and attractive.
Attractive is not only defining physical appearance. Some people look and act like the average person but capture the attention of others. Many leaders are considered charismatic because they have a firm stance on what they believe in, love to learn, and to influence and inspire others. They are attractive.
- Remember and repeat.
A great yet subtle way to flatter someone you just met is to remember their name and use it in conversation. They will respect you for remembering their name because you make them feel special. A good way is to introduce yourself first and wait for the other person to do the same. Once they introduce themselves, send a message to your subconscious “remember this name” to keep it fresh in your memory as you will train your mind to pay attention in the conversation. When you know the name of a person you have just met, repeat it a few times in the conversation and a few more times in your head.
- Control your body language.
Along with charisma, another essential skill is body language. It has been proven that the way you move can increase your self-confidence. Body language is a universal language. People unconsciously read your movements and facial expressions when you approach them, so if you have good posture and are happy and positive, you will transmit charisma. Trust is a fundamental part of charisma. People will admire you for the confidence you show.
- A look that says it all.
People can read your level of security by your ability to hold their gaze. It is not a matter of looking at other people without blinking, just observe them with confidence. If this unnerves you, look at the spot between your eyes at the top of your nose. It will appear that you are looking into their eyes and at the same time will calm your nerves.
- Don’t complain.
A good way to show charisma is to avoid any negative talk. Even people who do not have a naturally positive disposition, can be enlightened with positive attitude. So, when they think of you, they will remember it as a positive experience.
- Be kind.
Praise others genuinely. This takes practice as most people do not pay attention to details and then miss the opportunity to find positive characteristics in others.
When you praise a characteristic in someone else, you will stand out. Women are generally better at this. Imagine getting an unexpected compliment from a man, you’d probably remember it! Allow yourself to be more expressive when you talk, with your body language and facial expressions. Share stories, as they are more easily remembered and stand out from the boring day-to-day conversations.